Social media has made self-worth a bigger trap than ever. A study by University of Houston indicates that the more time people spend on Facebook, the more depressive symptoms they tend to have.
The reason is probably the regular social comparisons on these platforms, via the status updates (Who takes the more exotic vacations? Whose kids are more successful? Who eats where and what?), that cause us to measure our self worth on a different perspective, rather than on our ability or strengths.
Value yourself. Appreciate your uniqueness and understand your unique set of potentials and mindset. Be aware of and acknowledge your strengths and weaknesses. Then invest in yourself to develop your strengths and overcome your weaknesses, rather than compare on social media. Investment can be of both money and time.
Investing in yourself gives you one of the best return on investments you can ever have. It yields not only manifold future returns, but often a current pay-off as well. When you invest in yourself you continue to improve and become a better person. It is an unquestionable way to achieve a better quality of living. When your growth is your priority, you live a productive and satisfied life.
So why don’t we invest in ourselves? Well we do - until we complete our education we regularly invest in ourselves by learning new subjects, new skills, actively following fashions, trying new things; but once our traditional education is over we stop learning . Why do we stop? Many homemakers give excuse of having no time. With due respect, I cannot believe that for a minute. You will make time if you considered it important, if you believe it will give rich returns.
I will list a few ideas for you to start, but, in the end, you are the best person to decide how you want to invest in yourself, what will help you grow and grow your confidence.
Learn a new skill – in the age of youtube, you may not even need to step out of your home to learn some new stuff and most is available for free – you just need to explore a little.
Expand your skill set – learn a new cuisine – Mexican, Mediterranean, Arabic etc, I am certain your family will surely enjoy your new experiments.
Work on your social skills and I don’t mean social media. No doubt social media is an integral part of our lives but social media can never be a substitute for social visits.
Or learn a skill that will help you make some extra money
Read educational books and blogs.
Eat healthier – learn about new ways to stay healthy and fit.
Take up a new hobby.
Men could learn to cook – your own signature dish.
Do voluntary work, if you have access
Invest in your image –get new haircut or try a different hair color.
Even those working full-time can make good use of weekends and holidays (we have so many) by learning a skill that will help them professionally or take a long distance / part time course.
My new year resolution always includes my NS goals i.e. New skill goals. Last year I learnt some basic stitching (I stitched a fitted bedsheet). This year I resolved to try at least 7 new skills – it is just a number – I may just be able to learn 4, but the mental growth continues. In the first quarter of the year, I managed two Japanese skills – Fabric purse folding and Furoshiki gift wrapping; and the art of Mind-mapping. I never tried much baking so this year, I am going to learn some baking in a halogen oven.
Never stop the learning!
The effort you put into consistently investing in yourself plays a large role in determining the quality of your life now and in the future.