In the existing times, the go-getter attitude and assertiveness is often seen as synonymous with success, the concept of self-reflecting may seem like an outdated one and not so much of a strength to some. Today, ‘shift the blame’ seems to have become a popular game.
In simple words, self reflection is not spirituality nor meditation nor blaming oneself for all the bad things that happened. It is a self-examination of sorts. If you recall any situation or incident from your past, where the outcome was not favourable to you, and analyse it for a possibility of a different outcome. Say, hypothetically, you were not able to complete studying your syllabus on time or you may have completed it but forgot some answer while attempting the test, wouldn’t it be prudent to, later, introspect how you could have done it differently,i.e. completed the entire syllabus or memorized it such that you do not forget easily. This reflecting will probably help you do better in the next test.
It is said, life is 10% of what happened to you and 90% is how you reacted to it. But between the ‘what happened to you’ and ‘how you reacted’ is a little time gap, when you consider what reaction would be appropriate to take. If you have a chance to self-reflect in the past on a similar situation, chances are you will be able to take a better decision next time.
It involves thinking deeply about and understanding what triggered you, or what situations are troubling or negative for you, and then taking a step back to ask yourself if you could have prevented that in anyway.
It is easy to blame others, but that does not offer a solution. On the other hand, blaming others repeatedly may make you a habitual whiner. Also, you cannot control others but you have control over yourself. So, it is better to take a step back and analyse your own attitude, your actions, and reactions to see if this obstacle could be changed to a win or a solution to your problem. Then after analysing, considering all the factors involved, decide what you should do – take another go at the same obstacle with a different approach or look for another way to attain your success.
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